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            One of the things I learned from this class was about the heuristics. I didn’t know much information about this topic and I was able to apply this information to my Human Factors class when it was discussed. I learned how the media plays a role on social behaviors by a high degree. They inform us on what is and isn’t acceptable. I always knew they had some influence but didn’t know it would be to that degree. Learning that helped me complete blog six. Learning about relationships and their influence was extremely interesting and beneficial to my life. Things like that you can learn can be applied to your day to day life and I personally believe people should. This helped me complete assignment four which was learning your style of love.

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I have agreed with the conclusions within this article for some time. Men are designed to mate and create as many surviving offspring as possible while women are to find and connect with one. I feel like those instincts still exist and are a struggle within the dating realm. How do we move from a society where that was once acceptable and those instincts flow through our minds, to a society where we seek that aspect to be diminished? It is a difficult one. How do people successfully date one another when they’re on opposite sides of the playing field? I have been in situations where men have been very deceitful in their intentions and actions regarding our relationship. That is one way in which men upset the female population. Lying and being deceiving is one way to really hurt women and it is done over and over again. However, there is not much merit against that. The slang “boys will be boys” comes to mind when in reality it should be ignored and more attention on teaching boys how to be respectful and not think about one thing when it comes to us should be the main focus. People enjoy sex and if that is what the intention is then I think that should be communicated. After being in a relationship for some time there is always the fear most commonly in the female’s mind, that infidelity and dishonesty within the relationship will occur. I personally, am a jealous prone individual. In my past relationship I always feared my partner would move on to someone else, but that is because trust was not established. My gut told me he was unfaithful and although he denied it and I believed him, I still distrusted him. Women tend to be too trusting and not give another man space and their time. In my case, I was right, but in others, they can drive a relationship away and upset a man when it comes to not giving them space and not trusting the relationship when no reason to doubt it is present. Something that also upsets men is not communicating what you actually mean. Women sometimes expect men to read their minds and understand their body language and we all know that can’t happen. The famous “I’m fine” resonates with this. So, when a guy thinks you’re actually fine, but you’re not, women only get angrier. I think another example for how women get upset with men is that they’ll change and stop putting in the effort. Of course that doesn’t always happen, but many men will become comfortable and start thinking they don’t have to put in the effort to tell their lady they look nice or go out of their way for the little things. It can be hurtful to the relationship because women will tend to feel unappreciated and that’s one thing women cannot stand.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand one’s and others’ emotions. It also involves expressing empathy when it comes to others and processing that begins with understanding how others are feeling by their body language.  Having a high sense of emotional intelligence comes with self-regulation. The relationship between the two begins with self-regulation. One must know and understand their feelings mentally by processing them and acting accordingly. Developing strong self-regulation is acting reasonably and responsibly no matter the emotion. If someone is experiencing a rage of anger, they don’t act out irrationally. This is having a good sense of self-regulation of emotions. It is the ability to deal with your emotions with reason and regulate between them. I believe having a strong sense of self-regulation will help you develop a stronger emotional intelligence because you are able to process your emotions, understand what they are telling you, breathe through them, and move forward in a mature manner. One time when I was working, a co-worker and I got into a disagreement. We were both very angry with each other and instead of getting physical with her like I wanted to, I rationally decided against it because I would have ended up losing my job. Instead, I walked away, being the bigger person, and went and cooled off. I sometimes have to remove myself from a situation in order to not act based on my raised emotions. Breathing is a great technique to help with anger. One thing I need to work on when it comes to emotional intelligence, is dealing with sadness. Sometimes in public it’s hard for me to not cry when I feel like I need to. I don’t have a technique when I’m upset that way which can be hard to avoid.