Artifact 5
Module 8 Archive
I have been dreading this assignment because the behaviors that come to mind are not good ones and it is something that happened relatively recently (within the last 6 months) so are fresh in my mind but not something I am comfortable going into extreme detail about. The incident occurred out of town for the weekend for my birthday last year and resulted in A LOT of alcohol consumption. I actually do not remember almost anything that happened, but sober people have told me things that definitely would have never happened without the amount of alcohol that I drank. I was sexually assaulted to start, by the host of the air bnb we were staying at. This is the worst part that happened over the weekend. However, willingly, and the only thing I actually do remember happening is that I hooked up with my best friend (a female) while we were both extremely intoxicated. This happened more than once. Needless to say, I do not drink in excess like that where I end up black-out drunk (and had never been that intoxicated before in my life either and I am over 30 years old).This is a situation that had caused some bumps in my marriage as well as my friendship with my best friend that has all luckily been worked out since and we are all great, however it was a rough time in my life because of my behaviors. There were also some things said to another friend (the sober one at the time) where I jokingly said she is like a leech that won’t go away (because someone else had actually called her that and I was being a smart-butt, however she did not take it that way and thought I was serious). We are still not on great terms unfortunately, but it is on her now to reach out when she is ready, as I have reached out and said my apologies and what not multiple times since then and there is nothing more that I can do.
The subtraits that I’d say were reflected in my behaviors would be impulsiveness, Activity, excitement seeking (I guess,with the hooking up with my friend), actions, straightforwardness, and maybe altruism.
I would say that context influences our personality I suppose. Based on my own experience that I posted here, you could not reflect consistent personality in my behaviors. These are not normal behaviors for me, and have not happened since nor have they ever happened before this occurrence. It upsets me greatly to think about what has happened especially now when describing it in detail to complete strangers likely to judge me and think they know me based on something that does not define me at all.
Module 8 artifact is my least favorite of the assignments, while it was engaging. I felt that this assignment was way too personal, although I’m sure there are less personal experiences that could be used, it still asked for specifics, and that to me was just asking too much. Simply asking to reflect on these experiences/actions would have been a better assignment than asking specifics about the behaviors and things said. I guess if I learned anything from this particular module, it would be to be honest with myself and know that just because I act out of character, that that is not who I am, and to not worry about what someone who doesn’t even know me will think of me from them reading my submission. While I am not proud of the behaviors mentioned in my assignment, I should not care what someone else is going to think when I know who I am and those who know me, know and love me for who I am regardless of mistakes made.
Artifact 4
Module 6 Archive
For this assignment, I struggled. A LOT. Trying to figure out what the most significant experience of my childhood was that helped form my present self was not an easy task. I have, however, come to the realization that I am who I am because of many experiences, not just any certain one of my childhood. I think that the biggest contribution to what made me who I am today is being raised by a single mother for a large amount of my childhood. My parents divorced when I was around 3 years old, and my mother did not remarry until I was 13. During my childhood we struggled a lot. It was my mom, and two of my younger sisters. Although we struggled financially, and moved around A LOT, my mom always did what she had to to make sure my sisters and I were always taken care of. She made numerous sacrifices in order to take care of us and make sure we never wanted for anything. I would have to say that watching my mom go through all of her struggles, then and even still now, has definitely played a huge factor in making me who I am today. I am a giver and a helper and always have been. I do not like to see people struggling and I will do whatever I possibly can to help someone that is struggling, even if what I can give is not much or is just my time or presence.
For this module, I learned that there isn’t just one experience from my childhood that made me who I am. I am who I am because of everything that I have encountered growing up, especially watching my mom struggle to raise my sisters and I alone, as well as everything I continue to encounter as an adult. As a person, there are aspects that are always changing, whether it is for better or for worse just depends on the cause of the change.
Artifact 3
Module 9 Archive
I “interviewed” a person who is Filipino (and was born and raised there before coming to America as a child) and compared his answers to mine. His wife, who is Italian but born and raised here in America also answered. Comparing his to mine first, he put “female” for all answers, so there were many differences between my answers and his. I put “male” for over half of the answers. Comparing myself to his wife’s answers, we had all of the same answers except for one.
This module I learned how someone of a completely different culture thinks when it comes to professions and who he feels are the main gender that work in those professions. As someone who was born in another country and moved to America as a child, he still had his own beliefs rather than “conforming” to the way American’s think. His wife, born in America, and myself had almost the exact same answers, and I feel like most Americans would have answered similarly because we were raised with those notions that men or women are supposed to work in certain professions, although that is not exactly the case anymore.
| Occupation | My responses | Dino (filipino) | Christal (Italian-American) |
| Doctor | M | F | M |
| Lawyer | F | F | M |
| School Teacher | F | F | F |
| Taxi Driver | M | F | M |
| Dancer | F | F | F |
| Babysitter | F | F | F |
| Chef | M | F | M |
| Pilot | M | F | M |
| Mechanic | M | F | M |
| Architect | M | F | M |
| Designer | F | F | F |
| Make-up Artist | F | F | F |
| System Engineer | M | F | M |
Artifact 2
Module 10 Archive
If I had an appointment to meet certain people at a certain time outside and they did not show, how long I would wait there for them varies on who it is and especially why we are meeting. If I am to meet a parent, then I would probably only wait 30-45 minutes, but I would be calling to find out where they are as well. If I got no answer at all, then I’d leave after the 30-45 minutes. However, if they did answer and gave an estimated time as to when they would for sure arrive, I would wait up to an additional hour but if it was longer than that I would just suggest meeting another time or place. The same goes for meeting with my husband, best friend, or older sibling (which I don’t actually have). If I were to be meeting a client, I would wait maybe 15-20 minutes before calling them to find out where they are. If I get no answer, then I’d wait, while continuing to try to get a hold of them, for another maybe 15 minutes. If no answer, then I’d leave and leave them a message to reschedule. If they answer and they forgot about the meeting, we’d reschedule, if they wouldn’t be able to make it to the meeting place within 10-15 minutes, I would reschedule rather than continue to wait. If meeting a colleague, I would assume we are friends of some sort since we are planning to meet, so I would wait maybe 20 minutes before reaching out to see where they are. I most likely would not wait more than 30-40 minutes in total for them before leaving and rescheduling though. Meeting a boss is a little trickier. If I am friendly with the boss and this is a casual meeting, then the time will fall more with the colleague, but if this is to be an important meeting set by the boss (though outside and not in an office) I would just wait. I would, as with all the others, call and find out where they are, how much longer until they arrive, etc, but I would wait a longer amount of time because I wouldn’t want me leaving to look bad on me if the boss were to show up soon after I left. I would wait no more than an hour or so I think before leaving if I got no answer at all from them. MAYBE an hour and a half, but that is quite a long time. It is difficult to really say for a hypothetical situation.
This module taught me that when it comes to meeting people for an appointment, that people I know and are acquainted with personally, I would wait only so long for them to arrive if they are late, whereas someone that I only know professionally, I would wait longer for. I also realized that, for me personally, being on time is really being late. I always feel the need to be early to any appointment I have or anywhere that I have to be, even if it is just a simple meet-up with friends, I have a habit of always being early. Being on-time just does not feel right to me, and being late I just cannot do unless there is a reason. I just do not operate in that way where my brain allows me to be late just from lollygagging around or what-have-you.
Artifact 1
Module 13 Archive
There are many things that make me happy, even if these things don’t always make me happy. One of which is my family, though we do not always get along and definitely have our problems and issues at times, I am still happy to have them as my family. My friends also make me happy. I have a small group of friends that I have stuck with for nearly 20 years, and a handful of friends that I have made as an adult, and I really don’t know what I would do without them in my life. Helping people is something that also makes me happy. I have always been the type of person to do whatever I could to help someone in need, no matter how small the need may be. It could be babysitting for free so mom can get a break, or helping organize a house (which I am currently actually doing for someone), I have gone over to my best friend’s house when I lived next door and cleaned for her when she wasn’t home, without telling her that I was doing it. There are many things that I have done and do for people that are really just little things, but knowing that it makes them happy, makes me happy. Crafting (all different kinds) and reading, photography and just being in nature all make me happy as well. There are a lot of things that make me happy. I will definitely agree that there are different things that make me happy at different times in my life. In a way I think happiness could relate to better physical health. If someone is always happy, or happy often, then they are more likely to take better care of themselves, which of course also helps with making them happy, so it is a cycle that keeps going around. Someone who is depressed or simply just sad, does not take very good care of themselves during these episodes of sadness/depression, and from experience, not taking care of yourself or anything else just makes the depression and sadness worse and lasts longer. It, too, is a cycle.
This assignment was my favorite one to do because it was relatively easy to talk about what makes me happy, and of course talking, well thinking, about these things just puts me in a better mood. The more I sat thinking about what makes me happy, the more things I came up with, and there were just too many things to list. I also liked this one the most because I talk about my oldest (in the picture provided) and she is such a dork that I can’t help but smile when mentioning her.
What I have learned from this assignment is that happiness is not brought on by just one thing. It is many things and is not the same for everyone. What makes me happy may not make someone else happy. You have to make your own happiness, and happiness and health can go hand in hand.
