Blog 10

I learned everything I expected pertaining to the course outline. This course offered different procedures to observe behaviors of individuals and groups. I learned a lot about how to perceive and understand others. Also about attitudes and how they are formed what changes them and what influences them. I learned about prejudice, discrimination and stereotypes. There was a lot of material on relationships and how to form them and what influences them. I do think that I have grown academically. At first I was not so confident that I could do it but I think being consistent and taking things as they came, is what made me follow through to the finish. I do not think that I would do anything differently. I believe that everything you go through stretches you and makes you grow. So even in my frustrations I am better for it. I gained a lot of skills that would help me in my professional life. In counseling and in the human services field, we work with people on a daily basis. These skills will not only help me to be a successful professional but also will help me in helping others effectively.

 

Blog 9

There were a lot of assignments that made me take a long look at myself. Assignment five was about doing things for people you do not know. We do not realize how drastically our lives would change if we required of ourselves to do something daily for someone we do not know. Not only will it help others but it will also change us deeply. This, to me, ties into the Blog about emotional intelligence and self-regulation. In order to be more empathetic towards others we must first be aware of our own emotions and our ability to handle life. It is important to know about yourself first in order to understand others. How you treat yourself is a reflection of how you will treat others. Assignment 2 also ties to this in that it makes you take a look at your self-concept, presentation, and control. This assignment was a strong self-analysis. It made me look at myself from every aspect and the relevance of the things I consider important. All the blogs, archives and artifacts relate strongly to one another. This course reminds me of two courses that I took on Interpersonal Relations. This course discussed the behavior of individuals and also relationships. It discussed perceptions, attitudes and relationships all within the scope of social behaviors.

Blog 8

Men tend to upset women when they lie, and not just to get sex when they lie, period. When they pretend to be concerned about our emotional state that is another way in which they anger women. When they do whatever it takes to get whatever they want with no emotion behind it or no kind of genuine concern it tends to upset women. Being deceptive and secretive is also another irritant. Whether in or out of a relationship jealousy can also be something that is annoying and irritating. It expresses to the woman that the man does not trust her. Stalking can be both irritating and annoying, especially when you just want to move on and focus on yourself. These traits can also apply to women. I think both men and women are similar in that they do these same things, but they express them differently. A women will lie but not just to get sex, she also wants affection and attention. She will also be jealous but she is more concerned about emotional infidelity than the physical. Women can also be stalkers to, even better than men. Women can also drive men away by being too clingy, emotional, or even obsessive. I honestly think that we are not that much different in the traits we possess when it comes to upsetting or angering one another. The only real difference is in how we act it out.

 

 

Blog 7

There is a very close relationship between self-regulation and emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the capacity to be aware of emotions and how to handle them while self-regulation gives you the ability to gain a sense of control over life. To me, emotional intelligence is being able to intelligently be aware of and have a sense of control over your emotions. I believe one has to be very mature to be able to handle their emotions. I think life experiences help with building endurance when it comes to handling emotions. It is important to be able to regulate, have control over and choose how you will handle emotions. This allows one to have better responses and outcomes in their lives. The video expresses how important it is to be aware of what you are thinking and what you should do with it. I agree with this and it was very helpful for me. I am not usually a very emotional person but I do find that I stay in my head a lot. This is why it is important for me to be aware of what I am thinking because what we think or don’t think can control our lives. I think that I can improve my EQ by analyzing my thoughts and how I react and respond to them.

 

Blog 6

This video was very informative. I have noticed prior to this video that how much ads can influence others. It makes others feel as if they have to be flawless with no scars and no blemishes. That is where ads tend to contradict themselves because no thing or human is flawless or perfect. We all have flaws whether mental or physical. They tend to lead people to conform to their stereotypes. They treat women’s bodies as if they are a thing, object, or package. She really touched basis on every aspect of the human being that the ads effect. You can tell she really did her research. The ads made women seem childlike which is sending the wrong sexual message. The cigarette ads made one feel as  if they were free while being a slave to nicotine. She also talked of how the male and female roles were being displayed and how abuse was being played out in the ads. I knew about how much ads dehumanize and manipulate people to buy their products, but she really went into depth about how much ads and  the media influence our cognitive processes. While they are not the sole reason for our negative distortions, they do contribute to them and create a negative climate.  This was a great video.

 

 

Blog 5

the first source is a credible source it is from a website. It is this is credible because it is true in so many aspects of our lives. If we have to time to lay around we have time to get up and move. We also need to stop making excuses.The second one, in my opinion is not credible. The same exercises that work for some does not work for others. While many people may have a good result from this, it may not work for others the last photo is an attractive source for many because everyone wants to find quick an easy ways to lose weight. There really is no easy way to lose weight it takes a lot of time and patience. I think the common sense factor is what influences the perceived credibility for these ads. I am not sure if I trust the second or third one. The first one seems more reliable,  I do not find the attractive source effective because there is no quick fix to losing weight and increasing energy.

 

 

Blog 4

I learned to be better prepared next time. I did study for the exam with the review sheet and the sheet was very helpful. It was not what I expected it to be. Throughout my readings I like to highlight what I am studying. The feedback does help me to know where I went wrong so I do not make the same mistakes next time. I think I need to take more time studying, and use my time wisely. I have three other classes and with the fast pace of summer classes I can stand to take more time studying. Hopefully I am better prepared for the next test.

 

 

 

 

Blog 3

I think the connection between music and relationships is about feelings more than anything. I have noticed similarities between myself and others when it comes to music. I have had instances where I was around a group of family members or just one individual family member, and they have played music that brought them back to their childhood and they would share a memory with me. I have also shared things like this with my children. I also notice similarities in music with my children. We sing certain songs and it brings a certain feeling of happiness and togetherness. I have also listened to music with friends and we do share some of the same values and ideals. I do have the same taste in music as the people I associate with. I have also listened to music with a significant other and it made us closer and more attracted to one another. Music also makes me think of my grandmother who used to play music that she grew up with for her grandchildren. We grew to love the same music that she used to love, I have also experienced this with my mother and other family members. The songs that I list are songs that remind me the important people in my life. Some of them have also been a big help for me and my journey to make a better life for myself.

Dock of the Bay – Otis Redding

Best Friend – Brandy

I’ll Find You – Lecrae

Broken Halos – Chris Stapleton

Evanescence – My Immortal

None of this wasted, still becoming who we are, ordinary people, extraordinary scars, from a million places, like a million shooting stars, we belong to hope now, heaven isn’t all that far. -Kings of Kaleidoscope – Safe Retreat

 

 

Blog 2

I am the type of student who would prefer to be in class with the teacher in front of my face. I do ask a lot of questions. I prefer hands on, but I do embrace online classes and I am not afraid to ask if I am not sure of something. I am older than some students and there are things that I must get used to or have not used before. Like I said, I will embrace it. I have confidence in myself as a student. If there is something that frustrates me, it just makes me more determined to want to do it. Once I take a break from it I try to get right back to it because I do not want it to defeat me. I refuse to give up because I have given up on so much in life that it has only made me more determined to do it. I think it is my determination is an important factor in increasing my confidence level. Not wanting to give up is what helps me to keep going as a student.

 

Blog 1

The objectives for this course will help me in the Counseling and Human Services field. It is important that when working with individuals to be aware of and assess the behavior of groups and individuals. In this field you are consistently working with individuals, so it is important to know and be able to observe behaviors. It is also important to understand others and their perceptions. We have our own perceptions but not everyone sees things as we see them. In order to understand the behavior of others we must know what it is they perceive. Being able to know how one’s attitude is formed and changed in relation to their behavior helps in the process of knowing how to help someone. When working with different cultures it is crucial that we know the origins and effects of prejudice and discrimination. Someone’s attitude may have a lot to do with how they have been discriminated against this is important in knowing why they act the way they act or why they perceive things the way they do. In the counseling field it is important to form trust in working relationships so the need to influence others and form close relationships is a key factor. I expect this course to teach me what I need to know as far as dealing with individuals (or groups) socially. As a professional it is important to work with individuals as well as a group or community. I hope to gain skills that will allow me to help others individually and socially. The strategies that I will implement in this course to ensure success is to study and keep up with as much material as I can. I hope to gain many skills throughout the course that will help me in the future.