The course objectives will help us in this course because it shows the foundation of the things in which we should be learning. By learning and focusing on the items in the course objectives, in the future we will be able to take the techniques and information that we learned, and apply it to our future careers and even personal relationships.
For this course, I am hoping to gain a way of making friends and long time colleagues. Sometimes, especially in a digital world, it is hard to be social with people and be able to read them. I feel like by taking a course such as this, I should be able to be more aware of people and my surrounding is social settings, as well as in my career settings.
I chose this GIF because as it relates more so to the video, I can agree. To me, what I took away from the video is that we are scaring ourselves to death because we have easier access to information. It’s funny because I tell myself this all the time- I get very anxious when I hear about a lot of car accidents or people dying of cancers. While it is sad and I am not saying the rate of deaths aren’t increasing/decreasing, I do believe that because it is so easy to know people’s personal lives and we have so much access to news outlets, it is easy to believe that things are worst. In reality, things are probably better or nearly the same but because we have so much access to different types of media, it is easy to feel like things are not improving.
Blog 8- 11/15/20
I believe that the article was accurate. I believe that when starting relationships, we tend to be more deceptive and are never our real selves when meeting people that we really like. This does not stop at our sexual desires. In order to be more “liked” by the person we have an interest in, we start lying about ourselves and what pleases us. We like to think that this type of behavior stops when we graduate high school- you know, trying to “fit in.” However, like the article states,even prior to consummation, people will lie if they believe that is what their potential partner wants to hear. Women will say they like to do certain sexual things or have engaged in certain sexual activities that aren’t true, just to please the man. One that I can think of is engaging in threesomes (having sex with their male partner and another woman because usually, that is what the man wants.)
I think that men anger women when they constantly lie. Sometimes, men lie about the dumbest things in order to either keep the peace between them and their partner, or in order to protect themselves. When women find out the truth and confront the man, a lot of times they are gaslighted (gaslit?) into feeling like they are the problem when in reality, the man wasn’t mature enough to just face the truth. A lot of relationships unfortunately start off this way. They are based on lies which in the end, come back to cause problems in the relationship.
I think something that angers men about women is that we tend to overanalyze. Sometimes, men can be simple creatures. So simple that even their most basic, simplest thoughts can almost make us go “really?” And we think that sometimes their simple actions mean something bigger when they really don’t. For example, if we ask them “how are you?” and they answer with a simple “ok” then we may not just take that answer for what it is. We may reel all day trying to figure out what may really be wrong when in fact, it’s nothing. Sometimes men are just simple creatures who sometimes think simple thoughts.
I chose this because this Cinderella is my favorite version and also because I believe it’s true. The biggest threat to a narcissistic male is a smart woman who doesn’t buy into their BS.
Blog 7- 11/8/20
I think the relationship between emotional intelligence and self-regulation is very similar. I think in order to have self-regulation, one has to have emotional intelligence because we have to be aware of our feelings. If we are not aware and able to identify our emotions, we cannot regulate how we react to certain situations. For instance, in the video the woman used road rage as an example when talking about our flight or fight response. While our initial reaction when someone cuts us off is to slam on breaks, for many people the very next thing may be to flip that person off if they eventually pass them. That is aggressive behavior and it isn’t good for us. To me, emotional intelligence means being able to identify and deal with our emotions when it is necessary to do so. I have not always been good at this. I come from a family where showing emotions was not always the right thing to do and I did not know how to deal with my emotions in a healthy way. With that being said, I often lashed out and had many anger issues growing up, issues that I did not realize I had until I began therapy. I learned that it was part of my DNA after watching my family and how they deal with certain situations and their attitudes toward certain ideas and emotions. Now in order to maintain a healthy emotional life, I write in my journal, go to therapy and I always, ALWAYS try to think before reacting in any situation. I meditate (although I wish I was more consistent with it). I also found that anxiety contributed to a lot of my anger and restlessness that I felt, so I also take medication that helps control my depression and anxiety.
Blog 4- 10/8/20
I got a 100 on my exam which to be honest was VERY surprised. I would not be honest if I said that I took a long time to study- the two days before I took the exam (Monday and Tuesday), I printed out the study guide and went over every single question, reading through the chapters and coming up with my own guide. I guess you could call it cramming a little bit, but I do feel like I was able to take in and understand the material. I also think a lot of it had to do with my interest in this course- social psychology has always been interesting to me, so I think the fact that I actually enjoy most of this class, helped contribute to my good grade.
There were some questions that I completely guessed on, which made me even more surprised- when I saw my score, I was honestly expecting to get maybe a low A or high B. My studying strategy was really printing out the study guide and taking the questions one at a time. I get overwhelmed easily- so I did chapter one and two on Tuesday and three and four on Wednesday. Apparently, it worked but I think in the future, I would definitely start studying earlier. Maybe because I studied so close to the exam, a lot of the information was still fresh in my mind.
Blog 2- 9/27/20
My mean score for the GSE test was 3.2. “What type of student am I?” I believe that I am a confident student but I am not very organized. I am very transparent about myself, so I can say that I am a huge procrastinator. I honestly wait until the very last minute sometimes to do work. Not because I don’t understand the work, but because I can sadly say that sometimes I take time for granted and think that I have more time than I really do. However at 28, I am learning that this is not true.
I am confident because I am smart and I know that no matter what, I will find a way to get my work done. I am a quick thinker and can easily process new information so I am usually okay with taking in information at the last minute. The only thing that I try not to do last minute are exams.
*I was a bit confused in regards to what was being asked of the representative visual image- me in an actual academic space? How were we supposed to show our results?*