ATA 4

This week I tried to go above and beyond to do five nice things for people I do not know and some that I did know. I started off by going to the mall because I know around that area there are a lot of homeless people. I started by simply stopping and giving the homeless man I always see around their five dollars. He gave me a very genuine smile and just kept telling me thank you. The act honestly made me happy as well to help someone especially since I had the means to do so. The next day I focused on trying to just compliment people. Not on anything in particular just how nice they looked. I know for me at times hearing someone say you look good boost your confidence for the rest of the day. For most of them I received a thank you and some actually took the time to complement me back. The exchange sparked joy for the both of us.

 Another thing I did was buy my friend some nail polish and a face mask to help cheer her up because she was having a hard week. I put it in her room. When she came home and saw the gift she ran to my room and tackled me with a hug. Although the gesture was little, she told me it made her day a bit better. The next thing I chose to do was drive my roommate to class because she was about to be late. She doesn’t have a car. We live in the village and her class is at the top of campus. I could tell she was thankful because this was one of her classes that takes attendance. Lastly, me and my friends went out to a club, and we helped a girl who had passed out in the bathroom. We immediately grab a security guard and help her out. Although she wasn’t in a position to thank us, her friend did. Apparently, they were looking for her, but they couldn’t find her. With each act of kindness, I did this week I feel like it gave me joy as well as the person I helped. I want to continue to start doing little deeds to help people.

Helping is free, and nothing being wanted or expected in return is absolute genuity. Any chance given should be used to help and share unto other people. Just from me doing something that may seem so small, it leads someone to smile so big. A lot of times it is not even the person that it helping, it is the act along with the person.

It makes me feel good when I can shed light and make others’ day. When others feel good, it makes me feel good, even if it isn’t me giving and I am just listening to them.

ATA 3

While taking and calculating my love style on the questionnaire my results varied. Looking at my averages in the different styles of love surprisingly did not shock me too much. The test looked at our Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania and Agape style of love. Each love style is exhibited in different ways. Two I want to focus on are Mania and Pragma.These were the styles that were the most different from the average woman. My scores for the most part were very close to my genders average in Eros, Ludus, Storge and Agape.

The other type of love styles refer to:

Eros-strong physical preferences, early attraction, and intensity of emotion  

Ludus-Love as an interaction game to be played out. Deception of the lover is acceptable within proper limits

Storage-Combination of love and friendship 

Agape- An all-giving, non demanding love. 

When it came to these styles of love, I varied from the average by two points either up or down. The one that I was surprised I scored slightly high in was Ludus which looks at love like a game. I’m not saying I’ve never looked at it like that, but I was surprised that I was higher than the average women. I actually averaged the same as the average male.

The love style I scored the lowest in was Mania which is a style of love based on uncertainty of self and lover. When seeing this outcome come. I Was not surprised due to some of the previous trauma I’ve had from my relationships. My ability to trust others and let them in is very difficult for me then it might be for others. Furthermore, I also scored low in Pragma which talks about rational calculation with a focus on desired attributes of a lover. In simple terms the idea of love planning. I’ve always had this set idea about how my life should go so I’ve always planned ahead. For my gender these were the two love styles that women typically scored high in compared to their male counterparts.

ATA 2

We all have different sides of ourselves that reflect different sides of our personality. I feel as though I have a lot but my top six reflect more with different people. The six pictures I choose for my assignment reflect a sense of my personality. They reflect a side of me that not everyone gets to see. To begin, the first side people see most is me on social media. This side of me always reflects how fun and outgoing I can be. Apps such as Tik Tok and Instagram show to people that I like to have a good time. Even though my social media seems to show how happy looking that has not always been the case. At times through some of my photos I was going through a deep depressive episode, but no one would know that by looking at them. As a Friend i go above and beyond for the people I love. With my friends I tend to be a lot more caring and goofier because they allow me to feel safe and vulnerable around them. In addition to me being a friend I am also a sister. With having siblings, it requires a lot of patience. My siblings test my nerves but allow me to grow as a person due to the fact that they always hold eb accountable for my actions.

These are only three sides of me there are three more. Another side is me as a student. I am very hardworking. I try my best to go above and beyond to be the best student. Knowledge is power therefore I strive to learn all that I can. Another side is me as a daughter. I care for my parents so much. I do everything to show them my love by hugging them, kissing them and even pranking them every so often (sometimes you have to annoy the ones you love). Lastly, I’m a big cousin. This side of me is something I cherish. One of my cousins is close in age and looks up to me. I am always there for her and spend the most time with her just having fun.

ATA 1

We all identify ourselves in different manners. There are different characteristics that can help others identify some of who we are. One of the things we use to help us get a sense of who someone is there prototypes.  For example, if you were to meet someone on the street who engaged in a conversation with you about your shoes. When she left you noticed her wearing a business suit. You could safely assume that she might be a CEO by her confident demeanor and rushed behavior. You use  Representativeness heuristic most times our assumptions are correct due to the fact that being in certain social groups affects our behaviors. Although this type of grouping can be a bit helpful, it is also an incorrect inference of a person.It makes us make assumptions effortlessly rather than to examine the situation.

In addition, there are different forms of Heuristic such as Availability heuristic. Availability heuristic speaks on how we use immediate examples that come to the mind to look at different situations. For instance, People tend to believe shark attacks are a big cause of death due to the publicity they receive then people being crushed by vending machines which happens more often. The error with this is that individuals can overestimate a circumstance occurring that the actual likelihood that it happened. This ultimately affects our judgment when doing certain tasks.

Furthermore, Anchoring & adjustment heuristic differ a lot more than the first two. It speaks on our ability to use a starting point to do something and make adjustments. For example, studying for a test is a process in which you begin by simply going over the materials. You slowly adjust your tactics to studying the material to the ability you have to retain the information. Lastly, is Status Quo heuristic which causes people to stay in a current situation due to lack of experience. This biased way of thinking can prevent individuals from doing necessary actions to develop themselves.