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Assignment Takeaway 4: <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Individual love styles Affect Relationships <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Photo taken by Mikki owner of One of A Kind Photography. On July 2, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Attachment styles vary across individuals by how they form bonds and manage emotions in relationships. What remains the same across individuals is the need for affiliation with others through sustaining relationships. The amount of social connection an individual necessitates depends on the individual. Hendrick and Hendrick designed a self-administered questionnaire entitled Styles of Love composed of 42 questions. Participants average 6 sets of 7 successive answers into subcategories (e.g., Eros, Ludus, Storage, Pragma, Mania, and Agape) and provide narratives for each. After completing the Styles of Love Questionnaire, I learned that my top three love styles are Storage, Eros, and Agape and I am significantly different compared to my female counterpart\u2019s normative scores. The questionnaire designates the high Storage attachment style proposes the essential foundation for a relationship is friendship. Eros lovers demand the \u201cspark\u201d or immediate attraction that peaks your interest. Furthermore, Agape attachment style places their partner\u2019s needs at the forefront of their priorities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The questionnaire describes the love style of the individual; according to the Similarity-dissimilarity effect, partnerships among similar individuals are more compatible rather than complementary. When partners share common opinions, principles, and interests they evaluate one another more positively. Which means individuals with similar love style scores may respond positively with each other because both partners express love with the same competency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Love Style Questionnaire origins can be traced to \u2018Colors of Love\u2019 by John Allan Lee, a topic covered in a psychology of sexuality course. In 1973, Lee\u2019s research findings were based on statements and literature suggesting 6 basic components of love (e.g., Eros, Ludus, Storage, Pragma, Mania, and Agape) (Carroll, 2019). Allan suggested partnerships between congruent lovers are more compatible than opposite lovers. Partners with similar colors of love appreciate each other\u2019s reactions and understand the unintended pain caused by one another (Carroll, 2019).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love and affiliation are relevant to my understanding of mine and my partner\u2019s love styles. Similarities of our love styles enables us to maintain a long-lasting relationship. Rather than if we were in a partnership with s dissimilar partner that is unable to understand our delivery and reception of love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The visual image I choose is near and dear to my heart. It is a wedding photo of me and my partner. I choose this picture to illustrate how close friendship bloomed into a partnership. Where relationships built on similarities can withstand all that life throws their way. This final piece was truly written from the heart.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n

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References<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Carroll, J.L. (2019). Sexuality Now: Embracing Diversity.<\/em> (6th ed.). Cengage Learning, Inc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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A<\/strong><\/span>ssignment Takeaway 3: <\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Emotions, Thoughts, and Action Can Be Taken to The Extreme.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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Social psychology can be applied toward understanding others overt behavior, motives, and intentions. For example, an outburst by Michael Richards toward an African American audience member (YouTube video below). Richards\u2019 behavior brought others to question if the comedian is a racist. The comedian\u2019s word choice aids in deciphering his conscious and\/or unconscious thoughts and beliefs. Although Richards\u2019 explicitly uses a racial slur, it is the statement \u201cit was 50 years ago -we\u2019d.\u201d The use of the word \u201cwe\u2019d\u201d is significant. When an individual identifies at the intergroup level, they will compare all others who are dissimilar in terms of \u201cout group members.\u201d The \u201cin group\u201d members formed schema uses the heuristic representativeness to classify all others with similar characteristics. The characteristics or categories we place other people in can be positive or negative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moreover, our thoughts influence emotions and vice versa; the interplay factors into how we treat those within our environment. In Richards\u2019 case, negative emotions (i.e., anger) influenced him to explode and say what he truly felt. Our overt actions can be linked to an automatic processing through schemas which are preconceived judgments of others. Then our emotions influence our interactions with others in their environment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, there are many unknown external factors that could have influenced Richards\u2019 behavior. Where those who are not Michael Richards can fall prey to corresponding biases by negating external factors influencing his reaction. External factors could be that the heckler said something using racial slurs toward the comedian. <\/strong>As a spectator of the 3-minute YouTube video,it is difficult to know the circumstances that lead up to the situation, without being Richards and\/or an audience member. But by employing social psychology concepts, insight into the behavior of others, can be understood through a different lens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have come to appreciate Social Psychology is cumulative building atop of itself. Where each part is an expansion of previous themes. Social interactions originate within an individual\u2019s cognition and their interpretation of the external environment affects their response to it. As a human and woman of science this knowledge is personally relevant for how I respond to those in my environment. When I use mental short cuts to make decisions about others or identifying at an intergroup level I may be doing so automatically. In heightened situations where negative emotions are present, I can self-regulate by altering my schemas, thoughts, and\/or emotions. For example, when my three-year-old\u2019s behavior is \u201cunacceptable\u201d to me. I need to reevaluate the schema I have created in my mind which can alter my emotions and change my behavior. Thereby enabling me to come from a place of understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two visual images are included. Above depict how social situation affect the cognitive process (thought, emotions, and feelings) and influence behavior. Moreover, the Michael Richards YouTube video is below for a point of reference of the incident with the heckler. Albeit the Michael Richard example represent how emotions, thoughts, classical conditioning, the need to be like can be taken to the extreme.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

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