Artifact 5 Module 13

It does seem my definition of happiness has shifted as my priorities have shifted as I near my late twenties. In my childhood and early teens, I didn’t have as many responsibilities so my happiness depended on my social life. Hanging with friends, birthday parties and social events. As I approached my teenage years, happiness depended on “freedom.” I still didn’t have very many responsibilities, but I wanted the freedom to hang out with my friends and go when and where I wanted. My first few years in college was more of the same, where I felt like I was 18 now and happiness depended on my dating life, my friends and school work. I was also more into material things, my happiness was on getting the new apple product or working towards getting a new car. Now a days, I feel happiness being with my family and loved ones. I have learned to appreciate my family more and have grown closer to my parents. I also find happiness in reaching new career goals and cooking. Finding and experimenting with new recipes is something I put a lot of time into and that makes me really happy. Watching people enjoy my food is also something that makes me happy. And finally, my friends and I no longer find happiness staying out till 3 am and going to bars every weekend, but now we enjoy traveling to new places together and exploring new landscapes.

Visual artifact: I recently experimented with a new recipe a tofu teriyaki recipe:

 

Artifact 4 Module 10

How Long Can You Wait

I always try to be atleast 10 minutes early where ever I go, so I get a bit annoyed by tardiness. But I am not quick to leave if someone is late for a meeting. So seen in the chart, the shortest wait time for me is 25 minutes. I would potentially wait the longest for my boss and the shortest time for a colleague. Because my boss is the person who determines my paycheck and my livelihood is based on, I would allow her a little leniency.

My visual artifact is my alarm clock. I am so nervous about not waking for my first alarm every morning, I set two just in case. That is how important being prompt is for me.

 

Artifact 3 Module 9

It was kind of amazing how closely our answers were aligned. It just shows how engrained gender roles are. The fact that we both think of Baby Sitter and Dancer as a “female” jobs, but Pilot and System engineer as more “male” dominated jobs is a product of gender stereotypes. It seems the ones we differ on are doctor and chef which we both thought of our own sex’s for those jobs. It may be because I have only had female doctors when I go in for a check up and he may work with only male doctors.

 

Artifact 2 Module 7 

Self-construal and Emotion

It seems my 5 memories included 3 socially engaged situations and 2 socially disengaged situations. I seem to be happiest when I am with people and in social situations.

 

(1) Being given my first promotion. It was a happy episode because I felt accomplished and like my contrinutions at my job were being noticed and appreciated. This was a socially engaged emotion.

 

(2) The birth of my niece and nephew were very happy days in my life. I was so excited to see these two beautiful humans come into life and watching them grow up as brought me nothing but joy since. This was also a socially engagedemotion.

(3) Buying my first car myself. I was 23 and I felt accomplished and independent. I had set goals and was able to reach the myself. This might count as a socially disengaged emotion. I bought a Honda CRV 2010.

(4) Being maid of honor for my best friend when she married her husband in Mexico. I have known my best friend since we were in eighth grade and it was such a joy to see her so happy. Plus spending 5 days in an all expenses paid resort was some of the most relaxing time I had ever had. This is a socially engaged emotion. Pictured next is the view from my resort:

 

(5) Adopting my dog. My dog, is not just my “roommate” but she is also someone who is always there for me to cry on and entertain me. This might count as a socially disengaged situation since my dog is not actually a person. She is a Westie:

 

 

Artifact 1 Module 5

There were not that many discrepancies between what I believe my parents would answer for the questions and my own answers. This is probably because I get a lot of my values from my parents. They have instilled on me ideas such as: that people should be evaluated for who they are and not their achievements, that it is the quality of friendships that matter and not the quantity and that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. One idea that we may differ that people tend to repeat the same mistake. My parents are more foregivers and are open in that respect. I am quick to forgive but not easy to forget and so I do tend to hold on to grudges or feelings for awhile. I also tend to  obsess over my past mistakes a lot. My mom isn’t this way although this me be a trait that I get from my dad. For example, when I was 20, I once called them crying because I had made a big mistake at work and had gotten a lecture from my boss. My mom told me that I should just show up the next day with my head held high and not mention it, but show my boss I had learned through my actions. My dad suggest I write my boss a letter apologizing again and listing what I would do differently in the future. I ended up going with my dad’s advice because I could barely sleep that night. My boss seemed appreciative, but also a bit perplexed by my note.

 

My Parents: