I find some truth in this article. I am a very self-aware individual and I notice a lot of things that most people wouldn’t put pass them. I also pay close attention to my surrounding in which out in public, I will see mostly people, strangers going about their everyday lives and I will study their facial expressions and how they act in public. Point being is after reading this article I can see much of the readings to be accurate. Prior to consummation both men and women will lie or pretend to be something they are not to attract a mate or even convince them that they like one another, but only to get sex without the other person realizing. You will see this mostly at bars and clubs, but also in work places and in schools. After the relationship has formed, I do see mostly women playing the jealousy card more so than the guy. Women tend to over react as men seem to be more laid back and don’t care what their partner is doing because most guys, I know want that alone time, so they could careless what they are doing. After a break, up I do see both sexes can become stalkers and unable to except the break up. I still think it’s more women who will stalk more so than the guys, but I could be wrong. I just know personally how women can be, specially when jealous.

In my experience, men don’t purposely go out their way to make a woman mad, they unknowingly do and then after the fact wonder what they did wrong. Like men will talk to other women in front of their partner and to her it may seem like flirting, but to him he’s just casually talking.  Women will not leave men list for things to do, rather tell them and expect them to remember, but most men tend to forget to do the things she asked thus making her mad. Some other examples would be leaving the toilet seat up, leaving laundry on the floor next to the dirty laundry basket, or forgetting to pay bills.

Again, in my experience women will purposely go out their way to upset the men. Like a test to see how they will react. Women will constantly call or text a guy to annoy him. Women will purposely start stupid arguments again to see how he will react or to show him whose boss. Women will also embarrass the man in front of others, even in public not thinking how it would affect him, as she is going out of her way to embarrass him as women find it amusing, but of course most men find it upsetting, annoying, and making him angry.

The relationship between self- regulation and emotional intelligence is that when they both work together, they can achieve self-awareness and calmness throughout the body when in a stressful situation or in a fight or flight response. What emotional intelligence means to me is that once you make your self aware of your inner emotions, or why you feel a certain way when in a fight or flight response, then you can decide to take control of your inner mental state. You can calm your self down and relax your mind or even trick your mind into thinking you can take control of your emotions and not let them win you over. I was a long time suffer of anxiety and panic attacks. I had had trouble breathing my whole life and never knew why till I was 31 years old and finally a doctor told me I needed to have nose surgery to correct my breathing problem. But, before I even knew I had a breathing problem, I took it as “Oh my gosh I can’t breathe” and I would panic because I couldn’t catch my breath. An example I can think of hundreds where I have had to learn to listen to my mind and think smarter than my anxiety. One that comes to mind is I was driving along on our busy Virginia beach interstates and all of a sudden a whole line of cars just started slamming on breaks in front of me and at a high rate of speed I had knew there was no time to stop so I swerved over to the next lane without hesitation, not even thinking to look to see if there was another car there, luckily there wasn’t and my heart was racing so face I couldn’t catch my breath I decided to pull over the side of the road. As I began to panic, I tried calling anybody and everybody to help calm me down and of course no one would answer. So, I sat and took deep breaths and thanked myself for thinking so quickly as it could have been a terrible accident. After a few minutes of telling myself to calm down and taking deep breaths, my heart calmed down and my hands stopped shaking and I was able to continue on my way. I first panicked and didn’t stop to think to calm myself down as I was looking for someone else to talk my nerves down. As quick as everything all happened, I am glad I was able to pull off the side of the road and after about 10 minutes calm myself down.