The relationship between self- regulation and emotional intelligence is that when they both work together, they can achieve self-awareness and calmness throughout the body when in a stressful situation or in a fight or flight response. What emotional intelligence means to me is that once you make your self aware of your inner emotions, or why you feel a certain way when in a fight or flight response, then you can decide to take control of your inner mental state. You can calm your self down and relax your mind or even trick your mind into thinking you can take control of your emotions and not let them win you over. I was a long time suffer of anxiety and panic attacks. I had had trouble breathing my whole life and never knew why till I was 31 years old and finally a doctor told me I needed to have nose surgery to correct my breathing problem. But, before I even knew I had a breathing problem, I took it as “Oh my gosh I can’t breathe” and I would panic because I couldn’t catch my breath. An example I can think of hundreds where I have had to learn to listen to my mind and think smarter than my anxiety. One that comes to mind is I was driving along on our busy Virginia beach interstates and all of a sudden a whole line of cars just started slamming on breaks in front of me and at a high rate of speed I had knew there was no time to stop so I swerved over to the next lane without hesitation, not even thinking to look to see if there was another car there, luckily there wasn’t and my heart was racing so face I couldn’t catch my breath I decided to pull over the side of the road. As I began to panic, I tried calling anybody and everybody to help calm me down and of course no one would answer. So, I sat and took deep breaths and thanked myself for thinking so quickly as it could have been a terrible accident. After a few minutes of telling myself to calm down and taking deep breaths, my heart calmed down and my hands stopped shaking and I was able to continue on my way. I first panicked and didn’t stop to think to calm myself down as I was looking for someone else to talk my nerves down. As quick as everything all happened, I am glad I was able to pull off the side of the road and after about 10 minutes calm myself down.