Assignment Takeaway

Assignment Takeaway 4

After taking the questionnaire to see the styles of love that represented me, all the four styles of love; Eros, Ludus, Mania, and Agape were results that I accepted. What I was surprised with was that I have a low style of love in Storge. My husband and I build up our relationship before we planned what to do down the road. With him being in the military we both just wanted to see if we can both handle the long distances before fully committing to marriage. Which threw me off completely. And from there my style of love became Pragma which had a high result because I love to plan my love life, like when to be married, have kids, have a home with my lover, etc. This was funny to me because I never registered that me planning things ahead was a “bad” thing, I thought I was just preparing, and seeing it in paper makes me laugh because I feel like I’m overdoing my love planning, and I should just relax more. Also when applying this to something that I learned is sometimes peoples style of love can be towards someone’s self-control, emotional intelligence. Some people will want to find someone who is willing to understand how they feel and have a better understanding on their emotions. When others, just prefer to be with someone who will just leave them alone and give them their space. Depending what kind of lover you are, you will want someone who either understands your feelings, or just ignore them or not even acknowledge them.

Assignment Takeaway 3

From this assignment I had a better understanding of why people react with discrimination, prejudice, and stereotyping. The video of Michael Richards’ showing his prejudice when a couple of hacklers were interrupting his show, really show what kind of person you can be when they push the right buttons. Coming from a state that is close to the border, my family and I always had comments made to us because we aren’t white. Especially me. I’m Hispanic with a lighter complexion, but my family is darker than me. So, a lot of people think I’m a fake Mexican when really I’m not. When I first learned this I also realized that this can go towards someone self-presentation, self-control, or self-regulation. Someone can think that they are a nice person, raised in a certain way but it can come off as either, prejudice, discriminating or even stereotyping.

Assignment Takeaway 2

“Who am I? I am that. Nothing can change that. Words, intellect and concepts can never reach that. It is the perfect silence without vibration”- Amit Ray

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When learning about what self-concept, self-control, and self-presentation, it made me learn who I am. I was able to really sit down and evaluate myself, and see who I am as a person. My feelings, my behavior, the way I can control some of my feelings towards events, and how I act upon them is what makes me, me. I can change the way I feel I’m many things; I’m a wife, I’m a first generation college student, I’m a friend, I’m a daughter, I’m a sister, and I’m an aunt. All of these is what made me who I am. Yeah, I had some hard self-controls, and some bad self-presentation, but that is what helped with my self-concept. Just learning about this, it blows my mind that these terms happens on the daily and I just didn’t know. I know that for my other online class my self-presentation is a whole lot different from what I do with this class. I’m a different type of student in some classes. Some classes, I don’t really have to worry so much. So my self-control is much more relaxed, when other classes I’m on it 24/7 because it’s harder and takes up more time. When people see me working on my class that takes up more time they will think that I’m a hard working college student, when really I was just spending more time on one class than I did the other. My self-presentation will always be different than what people see me as.

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Assignment Takeaway 1

When doing assignment one on how heuristics take place in social cognition, it was crazy to see how topics like this happen on the daily and we don’t even acknowledge it. Like representativeness heuristics in my opinion is what occurs on the daily. When it comes to meeting new people from work, school or just at the grocery store. We observe them, see what traits they have and assume they belong in this “group”. Basically judging but more in a nice, science terminology way of saying it.  

I also know that I use status quo heuristic, and I laugh at this all the time ever since I learned what this is because this is my life! I remember when I got my MacBook Pro laptop, I told a friend of mine and her husband was like, “Did you get it cause everyone has one, or do you plan to edit a lot on it?” I lied and said that I knew how to edit photos and stuff, when really I just wanted this laptop because everyone had this laptop. I really wanted the latest thing. Everyone was talking about how you can just connection to your phone and text from your laptop, or FaceTime on it while working on stuff. And of course at that time when I got it, I needed a laptop because school started. Could I have gone and get a different computer, yes. Did I do it? Nope. My husband was on Team Apple but went to the dark side and is now on Team Android. Our household is divided in half all because of status quo.