I find it hard to pick out specifics about ways that men upset women or ways women upset men. I think it has a lot to do with individual personalities and how those personalities react to individual situations. I have seen both genders get annoyed with the other for the same types of things such as the spending of money, raising the children, cleaning the house, driving habits, and sexual relations. Both genders have the propensity to get annoyed, and even angered, out of frustration with a situation. Based on their individual personalities, either gender may react outwardly or inwardly with verbal outbursts or emotional distance. The devil is in the details, as the saying goes.

If pressed to think of one area in which men and women may irritate each other, it may be in just that, the details. Sometimes, men get annoyed with women when they have questions pertaining to the details of decisions. Although this too can go both ways, I think women like to know the why and when and how to solve problems, not just what the result should be. Women get annoyed with men when they don’t have the patience to provide  all the answers to their questions.

I can see how the study of evolutionary psychology might shed a little light on some of the conflicts that may arise between the genders. Learning how males and females may be predisposed to react in different situations is a good starting point. However, we are all individuals. If we remember that each of us may perceive and process situational information differently, me may be able to learn to see each other’s point of view. Eventually, we may be able to learn to resolve our conflicts quickly.