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I feel I’ve done well with the course objectives, I haven’t found it exhausting or annoying to do the social experiments we’ve done, and I’ve found joy in applying it to stuff I normally do. My attitudes towards Social Psychology haven’t diminished at all. I’ve only enjoyed it more as the course went on, I’ve looked forward to completing these blogs and waiting for the next assignment. I thoroughly enjoyed having to do social experiments and gauge or write down someone else’s response to my behavior. I think it helps that I’ve very open and not easily embarrassed in order to do those things and not really care what others are thinking. I don’t think I would do anything differently, I don’t have regrets on the things I’ve done in this class. Academically, I’ve learned to force myself into trying to enjoy the classes I don’t like. I try to think of them as social experiments to help me through them. One skill I’ve learned (better) is paying attention to social cues. I’ve always been one to watch people’s behavior and if they’re visibly uncomfortable, I know how to take a step back, but with this class, I’ve started to piece together when their behavior changed after what was said in the conversation and make a puzzle in my head as to figure out “where it went wrong”. I’ve also learned more about myself through self introspection on how I’m seen to others and what kind of energy I put out there-with help of the self regulation survey. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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With this image, I see it as the development over time in this course. I started at the bottom (infancy) and rose to the top (adulthood) of realizing more, listening more, and understanding better based on the assignments given in this course.
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Blog 9<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The top three things I’ve learned in this course have been emotion in men & women, emotional intelligence, and attraction with regards to blogs 7 and 8, as well as archive 3 respectively. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When thinking back to the emotional frustrations between men and women, I’ve learned that it’s not always the fault of one gender or another, but that it’s a matter of communication and understanding that need to be exhibited in order to not only keep the peace, but also to show how you can respect one another without hurting one’s feelings and there’s no wrong answer to express what you’re feeling through verbal communication. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In emotional intelligence, with help from the quiz I took, learning how you think for yourself and how you see situations was paramount for me. I always knew I was someone who thinks rationally, however I learned that my logic was also heavily based on my emotions when i had originally thought that I was thinking of more as a bystander with non personal issues rather than thinking as if it was happening to me. Learning what it means to be rational thinker and how it’s showed to the world was helpful for me because now in social situations, I can think better and see it from a different perspective. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the area of attraction, I learned that sometimes similarities may be more beneficial than the narrative “opposites attract”. I always felt that opposites attract because you could show your partner something you like, and vice versa and then you could end up doing multiple things together instead of you both liking the same thing and having less options. Over the last few years, that has changed for me, and this assignment was helpful in seeing that. I have used my own personal experiences to shed light on my new way of thinking and I’ve found out to be quite compatible with a close friend who enjoys a lot of the same things I do which keep the pleasantry in our friendship alive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If i had to relate this to something, it would be human cognition for the sole purpose of understanding. I’m someone who enjoys finding the deeper meaning or trying to understand something more so I can apply it smarter or at all to my everyday life. With the knowledge from human cognition and what I’ve learned here, I have broadened my horizon on the art of understanding better and looking for social cues and facial expressions more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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this picture represents what I believe my mind to look like, multiple thought bubbles with the appropriate thoughts ready to be said. <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Blog 8<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In matters of different opinions, the ways in which men have upset women are as follows: being inconsistent in effort regarding a relationship, not communicating when necessary, being unfaithful, disloyalty, and not being supportive. These are some ways in which most women get frustrated with men. Having been in relationships, these have all been occurrences where I’ve had to have conversations with my partner in an attempt to hopefully eradicate further instances where these can happen. I’m a conversationalist, I like to talk out the problem and perpetuate the narrative of “don’t go to bed angry” because I believe it doesn’t solve anything. As a woman, it frustrates us to have to repeat ourselves over simplicity, and we don’t like having to raise someone who considers themselves a “grown man” when they don’t act like it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a man, it’s annoying when a woman “nags”, doesn’t always say what she wants, and “tries to change” the man she’s with. I’ve been accused of all these things in a relationship. I found out that “nagging” is daily asking how your partners day was and if they ate, and that “trying to change” my partner was asking him to have a conversation with me instead of getting mad at something else and then taking it out on me. To men, these are big deals as they feel they’re doing their best to accommodate us and we just aren’t listening to them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Women want attention, effort, and support. Men want decisiveness, more understanding, and cohesiveness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Blog 7<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The relationship between Self-Regulation and Emotional Intelligence is that they both compliment each other in a way that is an emotion and response reaction. The self-regulation is the end result of what we processed as emotional intelligence. The way I exhibit my EQ is pretty rationally depending on the situation. If I’m in an unexpected situation like a spur of the moment decision, I become overwhelmed and distant because I didn’t plan for it. When I”m in a situation I planned to be in, I think more calmly, and adjust my emotions accordingly to whatever’s happening. In ways that I can improve is to not get so anxious or overwhelmed by things I didn’t plan for, like changed plans with friends that weren’t discussed, different movies we might see instead of one we all agreed on, or places we might go when I had budgeted for one place, things like that make me react irrationally and now I have to leave the situation in fear of what emotions are going to take over at that time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Blog 6<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Yes, prior to this presentation, I’ve seen so many ads that misrepresent women. I’ve seen makeup ads, skin cream ads, and pill ads that tell you it’ll do something to your body, went out and bought the product or have seen other people buy it and it does nothing for them. I think that there’s a new understanding for people who didn’t understand or saw nothing wrong with these types of ads before in that they’re getting to see how much women are sexualized and manipulated into being a dream girl for guys while guys mostly get off easy in that they don’t have to be looked at that way. With how young some girls are and how we’re seen, it sets us up to continue to be sexualized or that we’re like Mr. Potato Head and can just adjust what’s needed if we have the right tools to do so. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ads pasted below are examples of how women are sexualized, seen as objects, made to feel less than for not being perfect, and how we’re shifted into looking like something we’re not to fit the perfect social image or perfection. These ads are all hurtful, especially to young girls who open magazines and want to look like this and grow up with eating disorders, trying to become perfect, and obsessing over trying to not be less than how they see themselves. I feel these ads capture the essence of how girls want to be seen in order to feel worthy, there aren’t enough people speaking up for those who think they’re not worthy and too many people trying to turn them into something they’re not by the way these ads are shown. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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