This has been, the single most DIFFICULT SEMESTER of my ENTIRE life. The class itself was great. I learned a lot, the content wasn\u2019t too cumbersome. However, being an adult is hard, working is hard, school is hard, LIFE is hard. I wrote blog one as a mentally stable, 10 credit hour taking, full-time job having women. As I write blog 10 I have dropped two courses throughout the semester, am struggling with the fact that I made the right decision to do so, and that I am not a failure because I did so, and am slowly trying to pick up the pieces of my broken mental state that shattered in my face just recently. It truly is hard to reflect on the content of this course because so much of my life has overshadowed its importance. And to whoever is reading this I apologize for straying from the topic put this is the truth, and I feel like a blog such as this one is the perfect place to unload my feeling.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n My favorite chapter in the text was chapter 2 on errors in judgment. I literally made every error possible this semester. I will not bore you with the details but just know I understand how schemas and priming interact. How they can truly affect your judgment and mood. How mood congruence works and why as humans we are so bad at affective forecasting. I felt all of this during the semester. Every error was made. Semester day one Akia was filled with promise and the hope of straight A\u2019s. Semester day\u2026I don\u2019t even know anymore, Akia is just glad it’s almost over.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I agree with Buss and the evolutionary perspective of sexual conflict. I\u2019m sure everyone could think of at least three examples from their relationships or even social media that would provide evidence for sexual conflict in human mating.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n One of the ways that men get under a woman’s skin is by not being emotionally available. Men seem to think women are hormonal, unstable, irritable monsters. I still don\u2019t understand how at this point in our evolutionary history, men don\u2019t have an empathy gland in their brains at this point in our evolutionary history. Sometimes they don\u2019t give us the emotional support we need to get through those tough days. I know from personal experience that this will drive me mad.\u00a0 On the flip side, what angers men about women is that they are too emotional. I can\u2019t count how often my husband has said I would never understand women after I pour my heart out to him (this usually happens during that time of the month). I\u2019m sure men would live more comfortably if they didn\u2019t have to watch our moods swing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Something I know I am guilty of that may anger other women is when men spend time with other people. When I hear, \u201cbabe, I\u2019m going to hang with my friends this weekend,\u201d my blood boils. I get super jealous knowing that my husband chose to hang out with his friend and not me, the supposed center of his universe. I hate when I feel like that because I know he needs to have fun with other people, but that thought never crosses my mind when I see him ready to leave me. Conversely, just like my husband, I know men don\u2019t like when women get jealous or clingy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Self-regulation and emotional intelligence have a strong positive relationship. The more you are able to regulate your emotion, the greater your emotional intelligence. To Me, EQ is being aware of what you are feeling, what stimuli evoke particular emotions, and recognizing when your emotions may be influencing you more than they should. I know for a fact that I am an emotional person.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n In the past, I have utilized my emotions to make decisions and to cloud my judgment. I am an impulsive shopper and an emotional eater, especially when I am stressed. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety often.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Today, however, I deal with my negative feelings in a more constructive way. I\u2019ve learned to self-regulate. One of my most useful strategies is using sentence stems.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Similar to what was explained in the video, I verbally acknowledge that I am emotionally aroused. I say, \u201cI am feeling\u2026 (whatever emotion I am feeling at the moment).\u201d\u00a0 Then I try to list at least two factors that are contributing to my feelings, \u201cI am feeling (the emotion)\u2026 because\u2026(reason one) and (reason two).\u201d Lastly, I come up with at least two things that would resolve the problems causing my feelings, \u201cIt would help if I\u2026(possible resolution).\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Doing this helps me rationalize my feeling and make sense of them before I start charging my credit cards and inhaling food.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Although this strategy works for me, my EQ questionnaire scores suggest that could still use some improvement. My depression has drastically improved but my main struggles now are my anxiety and stress. Moving, my family, new jobs, and exercising are just a few of the things that contribute to anxiety. I need to actively try to self-regulate when I become stressed. So, I will be researching new de-escalation techniques and hopefully, I’ll find one as useful as using sentence stems.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Before watching the video I was aware that ad companies portray women as figures or \u201cperfection\u201d rather than with flaws. I never understood why altering the way a women looks would be a good selling strategy. I still don\u2019t understand why sex sells. What is it about a skinny leg wrapped around a bottle of perfume that makes women or men think, \u201cah, I need this.\u201d\u00a0 Using people’s insecurities and prompting light skin and a thin waist to sell products is just wrong. Now whenever I see an ad with the image of the \u201cperfect\u201d woman I ask myself, do I want this product, or is the ad company targeting me because I want to look like her.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n As a woman, I have fallen prey to the targeted ads. The ones that get to me the most are plus-size clothing companies. They are advertised for larger women but the models they use are the \u201cideal\u201d \u201csexy\u201d plus-size women. Light complected, hourglass figure, flat stomach, and a face full of make-up. Not every plus-size woman looks like that, and it sucks having those ads being targeted to me. I don\u2019t fit the mold and I can\u2019t buy the clothes. Seeing those ads are a blow to my self-esteem.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n The ad Popeys featuring Megan Thee Stallion is advertising a new flavor of dipping sauce. This is an <\/span>attractive source because it uses an attractive celebrity to endorse the new sauce. I think this source was effective because when the ad first aired, it persuaded me to go to Popey\u2019s to try the sauce only because Megan is one of my favorite female rappers.<\/span><\/p>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/sites.wp.odu.edu\/stegall-psyc304\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/27619\/2022\/04\/totally-over-it-300x300.jpg\")
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